I was talking to my brother and his wife recently and mentioned that I have certain clothes that I wear when I anticipate I may need emotional comfort. I don’t know if this is something other people do or not, but it has always been helpful for me. It is usually clothing that was a gift from someone I know, who will always have my back. Often times it is something that my brother has given me, such as the purple sweatshirt I’m wearing above. It might also be something from my daughter or from my dear friend Becky. (See post about the ring Becky gave me posthumously Dear Friends Make Life Worthwhile.)
In the instance of the sweatshirt, I know my brother will always be there for me to help in any way he can. He also believes that I am a strong, intelligent, capable person who can handle most things. Somedays, when I wear this shirt, it is like putting on armor that protects me from negativity and gives me additional energy to face the day. Other days, it is just a shirt.
Now, I know that the shirt has no actual special power. But the fact that it reminds me of a loved one, makes me feel better. What the shirt really is, is something that channels my thoughts toward positivity. It gives me focus when I need it. And having something that brings us focus, does indeed make our minds work better.
When I was in college, I made sure I always wore my opal ring on exam days. The ring was a gift from my mother. We were shopping at the mall one day shortly before my high school graduation when I saw this beautiful opal ring at the jewelry store. It had a lovely opal in the center with smaller opals on each side in a gold setting. I remember staring at its loveliness for a long time. My mom told me that as a graduation gift, she would buy me a set of luggage or the ring. I immediately chose the ring. As I wore this ring on exam days, I imagined it had magical powers and that by focusing my mind on it, it would draw through the light of the universe and show me the answers to particularly tough exam questions. I know what the ring actually did was calm me and give me focus on the matter at hand. Isn’t that part of what good test taking skill are? Remaining calm and drawing on your knowledge? Worked for me.
Silly? Yes, definitely. Who cares? These potential talismans have assisted me with passing classes, graduating college, to survive tough times, and pursue goals that I made for myself. In actuality, I did these things for myself, sometimes with the help of others. The power of the mind is an amazing thing. We just need to harness our individual ways to use it.
Everyone must draw on the resources they have to make it through life in whatever way works for them. This is what works for me. I hope you have found something that works for you. And as we make our way through life, let’s all do our bit to leave the world a better place than we found it. I’ll leave you with my favorite quote, a copy of which hangs on my wall.
“I shall pass this way but once. Therefore, any good that I can do…or any kindness that I can show-let me do it now for I shall not pass this way again.“
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This post was particularly timely for me because I have been suffering from severe anxiety for the past month. I have been using an app and a book that have helped me. I LOVE the idea that clothing that was a gift (such as the sweatshirt your brother gave you), can bring comfort and calm. As for the opal ring, there is an old wives tale that one should never buy themselves an opal ring unless they are born in October. (I am born in October and the opal is my birthstone). If you purchase it for yourself it is bad luck. But…….you CAN receive opals as a gift (as your mother did for you) and then it is GOOD luck which held true with your exams…and of course your positive mindset while wearing the opal ring definitely had a huge part to play as well! This was a thought provoking post and I appreciate it and you!
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I had never heard that about not buying opals for yourself. I am in luck because my daughter gave me opal earrings for my birthday. (My birthday is in December.) I hope that you are finding ways to manage your anxiety and getting some relief. It can be a hard thing to do in recent times. Some days I have to skip the news on tv as it can get to me. I am sending caring thoughts your way!
thank you!! Yes, I found an app/book/workbook called “The Dare Response” and it is helping quite a bit! Going to start with a Cognitive Behavior Therapist next Monday. I have to beat this!
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You can do it!
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