Today I was going to make an unkind statement about someone. The person wasn’t present and the statement was true. Then I asked myself, “Why?” Why say it? Sometimes venting is good but was it really necessary in this case? Would it serve any purpose, would it improve on the silence? And would it be kind? So I bit my tongue and remained silent. It was hard.
This sent me on a philosophical trip through my mind. It tends to get crowded in there so this took a while. If it took so much effort to stay quiet and not make the comment, was it worth it? Why not just say the idea, be done with it and move on? I have Gandhi’s “10 Fundamentals for Changing the World” posted near my desk. I looked at the list and by not making the statement I was honoring 8 of the 10 items on the list. I want to change the world. Please, note that I mean for the better! So this time I prevailed and made a minute difference in the universe.
But it was not easy. Is it easy to do the right thing and make good decisions? I conclude that it is not. If it were, the world and everyone in it would be happy, upstanding, and contributing to the betterment of society. Sadly, we know this is not the case. So I believe that it is worth the effort to make the hard decisions. Hopefully next time, this type of decision will be just a little bit easier for me.